Newlywed Couple Merges Families by Force and It Ends in Domestic Turmoil. Instead of Owning up to Their Own Negligence, Delusional Parents Snap at Eldest Son & Blame Him for Everything

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    Font - Posted by u/Minimum-Strike-9597 21 hours ago AITA for telling my dad he and his wife need to look at themselves for the reason her son is struggling?
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    Font - My dad has me (16m) and my brother (11m) and our mom died 8 years ago. Dad met Shantell 6 years ago and they got married 2 years ago. Her son is 10. My brother and I have known Shantell and her son for almost 4 years now but not 4 years yet. Shantell's son Kyle is an only child, has no dad, no extended family, and he latched onto me fiercely when we met. It was frustrating how he'd insert himself into stuff with my brother.
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    Font - He'd invite himself along. He would try to touch me and hold onto me and my dad and Shantell told me to allow it and hug him when I'd tell them it made me uncomfortable and annoyed me. Eventually I started to stop him and tell him not to touch me and not to cling to me.
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    Font - Dad and Shantell realized the three of us hadn't bonded the way they wanted us to, for Kyle, so they insisted on leaving me with both him and my brother and having me babysit them while they left the house. This was during the day and night. Dad would also set up times where I had to take them to the park.
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    Font - So I should bring up my brother and I are close, like super close. We lost our mom, all four grandparents and our only uncle (we have aunts) in the space of like 3 years. Losing them made us closer. I was always an affectionate big brother (my mom used to say that) and our relationship is so easy and natural that we hug, or I'll ruffle his hair or he'll sit on me sometimes if he wants something. None of it is forced and it just kind of happens.
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    Font - Kyle saw a lot of that during the forced babysitting, the forced park trips, etc. And he never got to hang all over me or be my shadow like he wanted and I'm not affectionate with him and it's caused him to have trouble dealing with stuff. Shantell was concerned and so he went to therapy for that. He admitted to being jealous and that he hates my brother. But he also wants me all to himself. He's still in therapy but he told Shantell that he's never going to be happy not being my brother.
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    Font - Shantell and dad blamed it all on me. They said I had a responsibility to Kyle to be a good brother to him and that it was my job as the oldest to look out for him and make sure I was loving him the same as I love my brother. My dad has brought it up a couple of times on his own as well and the last time I told him that he and Shantell should look at themselves, because they knew Kyle was seriously clingy with me and they sent him out with me and my brother knowing we're close and have an
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    Font - He told me I should have put my own feelings aside and done what Kyle needed me to do. Shantell was like how dare I blame them and she called me evil for blaming them when I have destroyed her son. AITA?
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    Font - RighteousVengeance 21 hr. ago. edited 19 hr. ago Pooperintendant [67] NTA. ● And yes, it is your father and stepmother's fault. Kyle should have been told that the two of you are brothers, plus you've both suffered the same serious losses in a very short time. That means the two of you have a special bond.
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    Font - Kyle needs to be taught his bond with you will be different because of that. And he cannot force it, otherwise, that will only drive you further away.
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    Font - And no one should ever be forced to accept affection and clinginess from someone if it makes them uncomfortable. You have the right to pick and choose who's allowed to touch you.
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    Font - I worry about you, to be blunt. In a few years, you're going to be able to live on your own. And you're going to want to have contact with your brother. I suspect your father and Shantell will forbid your brother from coming to see you unless Kyle can go, too.
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    Font - Perhaps if you could persuade your father and stepfather into family therapy, the perspective of a qualified professional might help you.
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    Font - Public-Ad-9827 · 19 hr. ago I worry about the brother too if Kyle has that much animosity against him and wants him out of the picture.

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